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Maria Shiela D. Bayungan

· Volume I Issue I

“Love is patient, love is sacrifice”, this is how I used to describe love. It was worth waiting for and a never tiring feelings of two people who chose to spend the rest of their lives together. This was our love story.

2003, when I was in college I met Gerard. A handsome guy, whom every girl wants to be his girlfriend that even my best friend liked him. He is tall, white and handsome, and yes it all fits to my list of prince charming standard but i never liked him at first.

We both attend at same course at same school but we’re casual. We talk, we have common friends but we’re not friends.

I was a typical college girl who make “tambay” to the school library with my friends and he was a popular guy who dated any girl in a school library. We used to spend most of the time at that place with that kind of situation.

Until one day, an ordinary day with my friends at the library, he was there without a date. I was in shock that I told him, “himala, wala ka yatang date?” He just smiled. Until suddenly he asked me if I could give him my number and off course he was my classmate, so I give him my number without any hesitation, no malice. He asked me if we could be text mate, and I said off course why not. I never thought that would be the start of everything. (that time, I don’t feel anything special for him, just a casual conversation, that was a friendly talk, a friendly exchanging numbers)

On that day, when I was on my way home, he texted me, “Hi pwede ba tayo maging text mate?”, so I replied sure! A simple text that started to often exchanging of sweet messages.

One day on December 2003, he asked me if I could be his girlfriend. That time, the whole class were planning on a trip, and Gerard doesn’t like going on a trip. Just to make sure that he will join us, I made an agreement that if he will join us on a trip, I will answer his question. And because he was serious with his question, he makes sure that he was present on that day.

On December 22, 2003 in Calatagan at exactly 10:00 o’clock in the evening, he asked me again if what was my answer to his question and off course as I promised, I said yes off course! So became boyfriend and girlfriend.

We used to be a simple-typical kind of boyfriend-girlfriend and nothing seems so unique with our relationship. We’ve always prioritized God, our family and studies, we helped each other in everything. We had fights, off course that’s a normal thing. We had break ups but we reconcile. We’re in a relationship for 9 years.

And finally, we’ve both decided to get married on the same date of our anniversary as boyfriend-girlfriend on December 22, 2012.

Our married life was like a roller coaster ride. We’ve been married for 6 years now. 2013, I was in and out of the hospital because of severe dysmenorrhea. 2014, I went on adenomyomectomy procedure. 2017, I was diagnosed with infundibular pulmonary stenosis. Two different cases with different procedure of treatments that both causes so much pain not only for the bills but for the heart’s longing for a baby to complete our family. But for him, as long as I am okay, I will be his baby and we are family.
I am and was lucky enough to have a loving, supportive and understanding husband that never give up on me. He stayed with me through thick and thin that even on dull moment of my life and wanting to give up on life, he was always there, lifting me up, cheering me up and saying, “go on fighting you are not alone”.